Published: May 23, 2007 02:42 pm         

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Dear Twins: I happened to see you both at a recent concert and that made me realize I needed to write you. While at the concert with my wife I saw my woman there too. This really put me in a bad way. You see I was there with my wife and wanted to be with my woman. I left my wife down in the floor seat section telling her I was going to the bathroom and went into the upper deck seats to spend a little time with my woman. When I got to where she was sitting there was some no good guy in the seat I paid good money for. This was going to be my seat when I could get the chance to get away. Yes I brought four tickets. I wanted to say something to my woman but I was afraid she would cause a seen and tip my hand with my wife. I wanted to go to the after party with my woman so as soon as the concert was over so I picked a fight with my wife and I dropped her at home and went to meet my girl. I didn’t get into it with her when I saw her that night because I wanted to spend a few hours with her at our local motel. My question to you all is how can I let my woman know I don’t want to be played by her with some other joker and keep what I got at home?

Answer: (Linda) Lets set the record straight you don’t have a woman on the side. You have someone that is willing to tolerate you because you are will two buy tickets for her and her man along with the two you brought for you and your wife. I must say you exercised good judgment by not creating a scene at the concert. As far as getting your woman straight about the man she is seeing you don’t have a right to open your mouth about him or anything else. So my answer is stop seeing the other woman or just open a checking account in her name and you can make regular deposits. Remember you must pay if you want to play. PLAYER-PLAYER!!!

Answer: (Brinda) First things first….You’re not in a position not be played. You’re the prime candidate and you are getting just what you deserve. You’re just an old player who’s finally getting played. Remember you’re married not her so she’s going to have other guys around and you’d probably just need to get use to it. Very few of us get to have our cake and eat it to. You know the old saying is every dog has his day and some get two or three. Oh by the way you’re playing a very dangerous game and some wives don’t take being played forever.

Dear Twins: I recently graduated from college and this was to be the happiest time of my life. The downer was that my parents divorced about a year ago and my mother showed up at graduation with some dude young enough to be her son. My dad came alone and tried to make the best of a bad situation. My mother on the other hand flaunted this young stud all over the place. We finally made it through graduation and I went home with my Dad as an act of solidarity. My mother gave me a card with a hefty check in it that I accepted and then felt bad about. Although I still love my mother and want her to be happy but I don’t want dad to feel betrayed if I still have a relationship with her. How do I handle this with both my parents?

Answer: (Linda) I think you are doing the right thing by continuing to have a relationship with both you parents. You said it yourself they are your parents and you love them. Don’t feel you have to choose. It may be wise to see them separately since your mother has a new man in her life. Remember divorce is not pretty it will hurt for a longtime. Make the best of your life and try not to make the same mistakes your parents have made.

Answer: (Brinda) You should still be able to have a good relationship with your parents but I know it’s hard to feel good about your mother when she is seeing someone who is too close to your own age. Your mother probably put on this show just for your dad’s benefit and in her hast to make your dad feel bad she humiliated you in the process. If I were you I just tell my mother that you don’t really feel like having a relationship with her “Boy Toy “ and hopefully she’ll get the message.



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